How to Work Through that Fear of Flying

Posted by Alyson Jones.

Colin Anderson via Getty ImagesIt has been a tragic week for the airline safety, and very difficult for those who fear flying. My heart goes out to all those affected in these recent tragedies. With three plane crashes in less than a week there are more nervous flyers than ever. We are in the middle of the vacation season and there are multitudes of people preparing for air travel, but it seems that even the most stoic flyer may be left feeling apprehensive.

Fear of flying is a common fear that many people struggle with. In my work as a Therapist I have assisted several people develop coping strategies when it comes to flying. The main rule is ‘do not let fear stop you’. Anxiety is natural, but when we give into fear it only gets worse. When faced with a fear we are given an opportunity to work through it. Do not let fear stop you from what you want to do, or what you need to do.

Fabulous Florence and the Magical Moment

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We certainly were experiencing our full dose of reality on our Italian adventure. Each family member had made it through a different variation of the flu, I had lost my voice, our feet were burning from all of our walking, and we were still recovering from jet lag. None of this stopped us and we continued our journey with a lovely day travelling through the Tuscan Hills. We arrived at our next destination, Florence, and although we only had 2 full days there we were ready to do some more exploring. As I still had book promotions to do when I was there I knew our family time in this fascinating city was going to be precious. I had booked a series of well-coordinated tours in order to see as much of the art and beauty in Florence as possible in our short time there.

I booked a walking tour of Florence, and then a museum tour of the Uffuzi Art Gallery. This would involve a lot of art and walking in one day, but if we wanted MORE we were going to have to dig in and make things happen. In my book “M.O.R.E” the first step to exceptional living is “Turn it Up to 11”. To obtain an exceptional experience we would need to be willing to push the boundaries past simple comfort, stay curious (Step # 13) and create something special.

Roman Holiday, How to Accept the Good with the Bad

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Rome was not built in a day, nor can all your goals be accomplished in a day!

“Why did it need to be Step #6? Of all the steps this was the one I was dreading.”

In my book “M.O.R.E. A New Philosophy for Exceptional Living”, I outline the steps that lead to exceptional living. These are not feel-good/be-happy steps, but rather steps that are based in reality and honesty. As reality is a cornerstone of the MORE Philosophy I should have known my big trip to Italy would have a fair dose of reality in it…and it did.

Step #6 is titled “Accept the Good with the Bad”. In this part of the book I tell the story of Brenda who went away on a much anticipated trip, and then became quite ill on her vacation. We now fast forward to my much anticipated trip to Italy to promote my book and attend a Collaborative Law Conference. My family came with me as I wanted to share the sights and sounds of Italy with them. Just prior to leaving, my son got a virus with a fever, but it had started to clear up by the time we were leaving. I was nervous, as I had many meetings planned and a very full schedule of activities for us all. I hoped we had escaped the bad, but I knew in my gut that MORE was coming.

Feeling Stressed by the Family Holiday? Then You Are Doing Something Right!

Posted by Alyson Jones.

Well it is that time of the year. The suitcases are packed with your favorite summer clothes and the car is full of all the equipment that is needed for a fun family holiday. Or perhaps it is a flight to some wonderful location that you have been saving all year for, and now the family is ready to go on that long awaited vacation.

The sun is shining and images of the family, holding hands and laughing with joy, dance through your head. You can imagine your family on the beach, enjoying a picnic, riding bikes all with smiles on their faces. You imagine the children squealing with delight while riding the latest attraction at the theme park you choose to visit. You are sure that the children will be enriched by the sights and sounds of the interesting holiday destination you chose. You have been waiting for these moments, anticipating the opportunity to truly spend some family time together. But wait, things start to take a turn. The kids are fighting in the back of the car and you feel like your head is going to explode if they get any louder. The beach was riddled with sand flies and all the kids did during the historical tour was complain that it was too hot. Your youngest threw up after riding the “turn a person upside and all around ride” that everyone was raving about. This was not the way you envisioned your family holiday…but when you start to think about it, this is the way it usually is each year.

5 Tips to Transition from SCHOOL to Summer

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Blend Images/Mike Kemp via Getty ImagesThere is no doubt that it was a ragged end to the school year in British Columbia. The school strike led to abrupt endings for many public school students, as well as much confusion and anxiety around juggled schedules and adapted plans. Many parents were caught off guard. Rather than the traditional rites of passage that we have come to expect, many concerned individuals worked hard and scrambled to create substitute ceremonies. A smooth transition from school to summer seemed like a far reach for many. Although there were families who had a tidier ending to the school year, there was still a rush to handle all of the wrap-up activities. Sometimes reflection and planning for the summer got lost in the mix.

Children of all ages do best with routine. However the younger the child, the more dependent the child is upon adults to determine and execute the routines. Routine is important for adults as well and as a parent I must admit I have come to rely heavily upon the school schedule to guide the transition to summer. It is human nature to mark our changes with beginnings, middles and endings. A common complaint is that June is busy with closing ceremonies, awards nights and all sorts of wind up parties – nonetheless, both the parents and children benefit from these rites of closure. This year helped me see how much I appreciate all of the teachers and adults who organized and put together these celebrations. I am also grateful to all who went above and beyond to make something special happen for the children. As this school year had an unusual ending for many, here are a few tips that can help transition your child from school to summer: