Although we may not quite fit into the sleek spandex superhero suit that dominates our children’s entertainment, there certainly are other ways in which we can become a hero to our children. The problem for many parents is that they want to become friends with their children, rather than heroes. Our children do not need more friends, and they certainly do not need their parents competing with their friends for their attention. A hero does not beg for attention or approval. Children do not need us to be cool – they need their parents to be parents. But, do our children need us to be heros to them as well? The answer to that is yes. But to understand this we should look at what a hero is first.
A hero is not perfect. In fact, all the most interesting heroes have vulnerabilities. Superman has his kryptonite, Ironman has a weak heart, Batman is haunted by past trauma and the Hulk struggles with his emotions. Sounds pretty human and vulnerable to me! One of the first rules of being a hero is to accept that you are flawed. In my book “MORE A New philosophy For Exceptional Living” I discuss the concept of the double edged sword. On one side of the sword is our greatest strength and on the other is our greatest weakness. They are two side of the same thing. We can transform our flaws into something exceptional. The superheroes mentioned above each found a way to transform challenge into growth.