The Big Lie: An Honest Conversation about Grasping Opportunities and Reality Checks

Posted by Alyson Jones.

There is a great big lie out there, and nobody really wants to talk about it. Our North American society in particular, has groomed a whole generation of people with this lie. We look at “the American Dream” which promises that anyone can accomplish a dream if he/she works hard enough and tries hard enough. We are told we live in a land of opportunity, and if you are strong enough to grasp the opportunity then you can be anything you want to be and succeed. I believe strongly in grasping the opportunities in our lives, but I also believe that we need to pay attention to the reality checks and which opportunities are meant for us to pursue. There is truth and value in working hard to accomplish our goals. In order to achieve our goals we do need to pay attention to the opportunities in front of us. Opportunity is a core principal of the MORE philosophy but the lie is in telling our young people that they can be anything they want to be in this world. Hard work can pay off, but not everybody can be anything they want to be, nor should they be.

Learning & Growing from your Mistakes

Posted by Alyson Jones.

There is a lot of focus on trust and honesty in relationships. This all sounds great but what does it really mean? I believe that the best connections are those that feel authentic and real. I encourage people to hold onto who they are and speak their truths in relationships, but this type of honesty should not be an excuse for brutal criticism of another nor is it meant to be an excuse to behave poorly. We are much better at pointing out the flaws and failings of others, and in our desire to protect ourselves we quickly point the finger at the other person. There is not a lot of growth in this type of approach to life, communication and relationships. We might feel that we were right, or the other person wronged us in some way, but we might also feel very lonely and disconnected from those with whom we would like to connect.

We can move towards an exceptional life if we can take an approach that requires us to look at our own conduct and then learn from our own mistakes and missteps. It is also beneficial to learn from the mistakes of others (and some people are able to learn by observation), but there is no doubt that the most powerful learning of all is from our own experience. It is also the most powerful challenge. How do we preserve our sense of worth and dignity and learn from our mistakes? How do we preserve another’s dignity in the face of their mistakes? And how can we all learn from each other?

Honest Conversations: A Blog About Experiencing MORE in your Life

Posted by Alyson Jones.

What is an honest conversation? Why is this blog called “Honest Conversations? It is my belief that it is time for us all to start having honest conversations again and I will be doing that through our blog posts. Although there is a lot of talk in the information age, we seldom find that any of it has any real substance. Somewhere along the way we have lost sight of the art of true conversation. We are so busy protecting ourselves, and not wanting to upset anyone, that we say a lot of things that just don’t mean anything. It might be a polite conversation, but we can barely remember it 5 minutes later. An honest conversation always has a risk in it, but it also has substance. This is the real ‘7 grain whole wheat’ conversation, not the white bread highly processed conversation. It is my belief that honest conversations are actually good for us, that they have substance and nutrition and they take a lot more effort to digest.